Just read another article about a young high school boy, Terrel Williams. who was about to turn 18 who was found hanging in his closet.
This is heartbreaking.
His suicide note reads: "I’m sorry to my immediate loved ones, but I feel suicide is the only way out. Today, was the record worst day of my life, some kids at school stole some of my stuff that I got from people I really cared about, and that really pushed me over the top, next to being shoved into a wall, and my ribs being broken."
This is an epidemic people. These are not isolated incidents. We are failing as a country and as a people. Most of all in my opinion this is a failure of parenting. One that we need to fix immediately.
It does not matter what creed, race, or religion you are. You do not have to agree with homosexuality. But we must teach our children to respect one another. We HAVE to teach them that not agreeing with someone or liking someone for who they are does not give you the right to bully or to berate or to put hands on them. There is no excuse.
I’ve been there. Grammar school was horrible for me. I was called fagot for as long as I can remember. I remember being called gay and fagot when I was in 3rd grade. 3rd grade!!! I did not even know what the hell fagot was. I didn’t even know I liked boys. It got much worse during my later years of grammar school. Threats, curses, slurs. Everything in the book. I was taunted in the locker room and in gym. You name it. I was very close to reaching the breaking point many times. Something held me back though. I’m glad it did. My mother always taught me to treat people justly. To never hurt a person because they were different. This lesson is ESSENTIAL to your children at an early age.
To Terrel Williams and all the others:
I’m so sorry you had to go through that. For those of you who continue to go through it and are young, please hold on. You are strong. The people who taunt you and bully you are ignorant. They don’t know any better. They were not taught better. I promise that it gets better. When you are older and can more easily control your destiny, you will see. You will reach the day when you realize that you made it. That they don’t matter anymore. You will see that most of those people will be miserable for the rest of their lives. Some will hopefully realize that their actions as a child affected someone. Some wont and thats ok. They will never have the mental capacity to understand anything so serious.
To Parent: Please take a moment to talk to your child. Regardless of whether you think they are doing this or not. Plant the seeds of acceptance in your child. They do not have to agree with someones lifestyle but they should respect that person.
To Anyone else:
If you feel down, are being bullied feel free to talk to me. You don’t have to tell me exactly who you are. Just talk to someone. Get it out. It helps. And know that it does get better. I promise you that it does.
I don’t know where you are or what you are doing right now but I wish I did. I have never missed anyone this much. Ever.
I miss your silliness. I miss your little dances. I miss your smell. I miss sleeping in the same bed nightly. I miss coming home from school and ranting about my day. I miss you listening to me.
I miss missing rent. I miss being completely and utterly broke with you. I miss eating ramen in our little apartment just to get by. I miss our midnight trips to the supermarket to get goodies.
Most of all I miss you.
I feel so stupid. We had so many problems. Many of which we shouldn’t have had with the time we were together. But I cant help but think that I didn’t try hard enough to get your attention. That I didn’t work hard enough to make it work and to convince you of the path we were going down. The things I felt. I was never good with words. I don’t know what I could have done differently though.
The fact of the matter is, I love you. I continue to do so. I can’t imagine being with anyone else. I don’t have the will or energy to even look at another man at the moment. The thought of even a date makes me sick.
Because it should be you that I spend my time with. You that I fall sleep next too.
Day before: I go online to use the DMV’s document point selector to make sure I have everything
State ID expired in the Last Year: 4 Points Social Security Card : 1 Point Bank Card w/ Name: 1 Point
Arrive at DMV @ 630 am (mind you it opens at 8 am). 2nd person in line.
8 am doors open I go to the counter. I give my things and sign the papers. Attendant proceeds to tell me they can’t take my ID because its expired. I proceed to inform said attendant that online it says I can use it if its expired in the last year.
He says I can’t and asks me to bring my birth certificate. I leave.
9 am I arrive at home get my birth certificate
930 am Arrive at DMV once again, go to the counter. I show him the website on my iPhone so that he’s informed and can be aware when other customers come in (cause im nice). Proceed to hand him my birth certificate anyway
935 am Said attendant proceeds and tells me to walk over to the supervisor so she can clear me. I do.
936 am I proceed to tell her of the account with the attendent and show her the website. She says she can’t accept the ID or the birth certificate because the ID is expired and the birth certificate is ripped.
938 am I proceed to tell her that it is an emergency and that I have an exam to take for my Nursing License on Tuesday and that I need valid ID.
940 am She tells me to go to TRENTON for a new birth certificate
941 am I begin to lose my shit. I tell her that the online is probably more up to date than that pamphlet and if she can please help me.
942 am She says she cannot help me and proceeds to talk to the next customer
943 am I loose my shit completely and flip out like I have never flipped out in my life. I tell her that its her job as a Supervisor to know what the state accepts and to keep up to date with the current policies. She tells me no its not her job. And i quote, “The website is not what keeps my job its this pamphlet.”
944 am I have turned into the exorcist and everyone is looking at me like deer in headlights. I used every curse and name in the book on her.
945 am She gives me a dirty look and I almost jump over the counter and sock her in the mouth
946 am Asked to leave by security. Proceed to leave and as I’m walking out like 5 people start clapping lol