I consider Henry one of my best friends. It’s a bit of a weird situation though. I’ve only met him one in person. I have known him 5 years.
I met him online on this site that I’m not sure even exists anymore called iChatgay. It was a way to meet gay people on iChat. Weird I know. But thats where I met him. We hit it off right away. He lives in Miami and I live in New Jersey/NY. Over the years I’ve gotten to know him very well I think. He’s practically my twin. My black twin haha. We think alike, I swear we even have the same relationship problems at the same time. I met him in 2009 on my first trip to Miami. That trip was ridiculous. It only confirmed to me that the Henry I knew online was the real life one. He is awesome.
It’s completely his fault that I am possible moving to Miami in 2011. Follow him!
I’ve been meaning to change my name here on Tumblr for some time. Take the Box was my old name. The meaning of the name was the mindset I was in at the time. It was an old Amy Winehouse song. I am no longer that person. Therefore a name change is needed.
I think I’m starting a new series here on my blog of stupid shit I encounter in my life that I just need to say something about. This is my first entry.
So the other day I was at CVS (like a Rite Aid or Wallgreens) and I was in line with my mom waiting to pay when I look up to see condoms behind the counter locked in a cabinet. I had heard of that being done in conservative states like Alabama. But I never expected it in New York. My mouth dropped. Keeping condoms behind a locked cabinet or counter is STUPID. Lets explore this shall we?
It’s a known fact that people have unprotected sex. Everyone has done it. If you say you haven’t your probably lying or you have amnesia. But its also a fact that when condoms are easily and readily available people use them more often. Thats why clinics have them out for free. People like free.
This brings me to young kids. Kids are embarrassed about everything. Even adults are. A huge amount of people are too embarrassed to go buy condoms at the store. While I think they should get over it, it doesn’t make it easier for them to buy them if they are in a locked cabinet behind a counter and they have to ASK for them. They feel judged and I get it. More so for the younger kids.
I don’t condone teens having sex. I don’t. But the fact is that it happens and there is no denying it. This country is rampant with teenage pregnancy and STD’s. Do you think teens are going to go to a CVS or Rite Aid to buy condoms if they are going to feel judged? Nope. I know when I was a teen I wouldn’t have. This is a huge problem. We have to stop denying that PEOPLE HAVE SEX. If you are going to do it, do it in a responsible way. There is no need to condoms to be behind a counter or locked it. Its stupid stupid stupid.
Anyway, I was standing there in line with mom and she noticed that I looked like I wanted to kill someone. I feel strongly about this. And I told her and got a little loud (I’m Puerto Rican after all). But my mom being the amazing woman that she is totally agreed with me. My mom is not a liberal person. She is a tough cookie. She was very strict when I was younger. But she understood when I explained. All the while the lady in front of me was listening. She turned around just as I said, “WTF is this Texas or Alabama?” She proceeded to turn around and tell me that she totally agreed and smiled. I know I’m not crazy. Am I wrong here?
I want someone who will come with me to Borders or Barnes & Noble and spend hours there like I do on my own. And not complain about it. Who loves books and stories as much as I do. Who will sit right next to me with his head on my shoulder or mine on his reading in an aisle. I had that once…I want it again.
If you search for love you will just find shortcomings. If you continue to develop a better understanding of yourself and own needs, it will come to you with such a dynamic that would be hard to tear apart.